About me, the quintessential infertile turtle

First let me tell you about me. My name is Renee, and I am a 29 year old teacher (out of work currently), who is infertile. Infertile like, my husband and I have been trying for 4 years and not one child yet. We have been to several doctors and have had several tests run. I have been through surgery, charting, so many blood draws that I look like a heroin addict, IUI, shots, HSG (twice), and heartache of course. The diagnosis: unexplained infertility. How frustrating! Because getting pregnant naturally is not likely to ever happen, my husband and I have decided to save up for IVF. The tentative date for this IVF is January 2012.


So why am I writing a blog about it you might ask? I decided in the meantime, I could be more positive. Infertility literally takes a woman to her lowest point. It will test your faith, beliefs, and womanhood. I have prayed for one thing for four years! Anyways, my sulking, crying and why me attitude hasn't gotten me anywhere, so I decided to do something that could make me happy until the day we can actually afford IVF. This blog serves to distract me and purge me of all the negative thoughts I've been feeling for four years.


These past four years have been an emotional roller coaster. Each month for an infertile woman consists of two weeks of hope, a week of anticipation and a week of complete and utter despair. So to lift my spirits until that glorious day when a doctor can insert a couple of embryos into my uterus, I am going to be thankful. That's right, you heard me. I am not going to focus on my infertility. Instead I am going to focus on the things I have to be thankful for. Each day I will pick another thing that I am thankful for and relate it to my journey of infertility in a positive light. It can be anything: a person, place, feeling, belief or an actual object that I love. I truly believe in the power of perspective, acceptance and attitude.


"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile." ~Author Unknown

Friday, September 23, 2011

#16 Music

How can I follow up my #15?  I mean seriously, my niece is a such a blessing, how can anything after her be worth while?  Maybe I should have saved her for my very last blog, but alas here I am, only on #16 and with sort of a writer's block.  My only answer is to find something that is completely frivolous, but awesome at the same time.  So, today I am thankful for music.

Let me be clear, in no way am I a musician.  I can not play a musical instrument, I do not sing (except for in the car where no one can hear me), I can not read music and I could not write a song that would be worth listening to if my life depended on it.  I actually always wanted to learn to play piano, but my parents could never afford a piano or music lessons, so that dream was never actualized. :(  Can you hear the world's smallest violin playing my song?

However, I don't believe that you have to be an actual musician to enjoy and love music.  Music fills in the spaces in so many places.  (I did not mean to rhyme there, it just happened.)  Think of how boring it would be driving on a long car trip if there was no music.  Or think of cleaning the house, having a party, movies, exercising, putting on makeup or weddings without it....BORING.  There is nothing I enjoy more than walking my dog in the early morning with my Ipod buds in my ears playing some of my favorite songs.  I do not think I would go on those walks if there was not music surrounding my thoughts.

In addition to making life more fun and enjoyable, music has the ability to influence one's mood.  Think about a time when you were sad and you heard the perfect song and for some reason you felt a little better.  I always think of the football players in high school who would blast Guns n' Roses' Welcome to the Jungle before the Friday night game.  They would automatically feel excited and amped up to play.  Their sudden adrenaline rush proves that music has the ability to actually elicit a physical response from our body.  I have even listened to songs that have brought forth tears from very eyes.  Remember, Tim Mcgraw's Don't Take the Girl? Come on, you know you cried too. I think the reason music moves us is because sometimes we hear a song and it reminds us that we are human and that we aren't alone with our feelings.  The songs prove that there is someone else out there in this big world that has had the same experiences and can sympathize with our emotions.

In my infertility, there's a few songs that speak to me.  For some reason, I don't know why, but Dave Matthew's Grey Street has always been one of my go to songs.  Read the lyrics and maybe you'll understand.  As cheesy as this is, two others that always get me is Rascal Flatt's Stand or I Won't Let Go.  If you are infertile, listen to these songs, but I warn you, you will cry.

So despite infertility, I am still appreciative for the small stuff.  Music only plays a trivial, minor role in my life, but really, don't all the small things add up?

"Music speaks what cannot be expressed, soothes the mind and gives it rest, heals the heart and makes it whole, flows from heaven to the soul." ~Unknown


                                      The closest I will ever get to musically performing: Playing Rock Band.

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